Relationship Way

Blue

Building Self-Esteem

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Introduction

Summary

Self-esteem is how we feel about ourselves, not how others feel about us. We trust ourselves, believe in ourselves, we experience ourselves as worthy. We believe we deserve to be happy.

Our responses to all aspects of life are shaped by our self-concept and our self-esteem. It is the most powerful judgment we make about ourselves. 

Self-esteem consists of our feelings about our personal competence, our ability to cope with life, our personal worth, our right to be happy and stand up for ourselves, our interests, our needs and our worthiness to live life and be productive members of society. It is the reputation we acquire with ourselves.

Just as individuals display behaviours typical of their personality style when they are experiencing positive self-esteem, they display a different personality style when they are experiencing low self-esteem. Low self-esteem is often the root cause of negative behaviours.

Even corporate training programs cannot be successful if individuals are not being positively esteemed in the process. Enhancing the positive self-esteem of employees is the first order of business and it is necessary to integrate self-esteem activities into the corporate environment.

It is absolutely essential that we increase an employee's positive self-esteem in terms of the values and beliefs of the individual's personality style. Certain behaviours or comments will increase the self-esteem of some personality styles while the same comments or behaviours may have no effect or even lower the self-esteem of other personality types.

The Relationship Way - Blue personality styles want to be appreciated for their uniqueness, their unique contributions, their competence in human and having their own feelings and ideas accepted.

I.   Building positive self-esteem by allowing them to:

• Be able to dialogue with colleagues

• Create support systems and social contacts

• Be creative in the workplace with colleagues

• Express feelings and emotions

• Demonstrate caring attitudes

• Express enthusiasm

II.  Techniques which might be used to build positive self-esteem at work:

• Providing personal and social recognition

• Remembering and calling them by name

• Praising and complimenting them personally

• Letting them share what they know

• Supervising through the use of discussions and groups

• Recognizing how their social values connect to teamwork

• Being aware of their sensitivity to group feedback

• Maintaining a conflict-free environment

III. Use the following when directing the Relationship Way - Blue:

• Being open and non-judgmental

• Showing integrity

• Genuine

• Being aware of feelings

• Willingness to talk and discuss issues

IV. Recognize low self-esteem when these clues are exhibited:

• Attention-getting behaviour

• Lying to save face

• Withdrawal

• Day-dreaming

• Crying Depression

• Passive resistance

• Emotional outbursts

• Inertia

• Little self-confidence

V.  Encouragement by appreciating and recognizing some of the following:

• Sensitivity and caring of all employees

• Creativity

• Cooperative attitudes

• Willingness to care

• Unique contributions

• Personal uniqueness

• Understanding of feelings of self and others

• Personal growth

• Personal characteristics that are valued and meaningful

• Honesty and sincerity